22.4.07

Marriages ! ~ Wedding bells !

WEDDING BELLS!!
Wishing Ash-Abhishek a very happy married life!

Also our friend ramya will be getting married today - 23rd,which also happens to be amma appa's wedding anniversary! :) Wishing you a happy married life ramya! :)

Amma appa - i will wish them straight! ;)

This post is about marriages & do not be fooled that it may be about the celebrity wedding! :)

Marriage – hm…. Is it all about just getting committed to someone for the rest of your life(probably at least a greater part of your life )

ADHUKU MUNAADI !!! :)

Disclaimer: Am writing this post – just like that and nothing personal. Inga yaravadhu unaku kalyanama, Karumaadhiyanu aramichudadheenga please !!!;) Answer is no :) ! This is just an observation & something that had been of a great surprise, amusement & astonishment to me. Marriages – its success & failure.

These days some of the marriages FAIL – MISERABLY! The hard truth is that – they fail for no real good valid reason - but it fails because people fail to understand!

The number of divorce applications has increased greatly in the recent years.

Do not worry – this is not gonna be a brag, when you leave this page today – you will go in one piece :D I had been thinking & here are some of that ...

Wild thoughts:

#*Marriages are made in heaven!!
Some people are so talented that they make hell out of it ;)

#*Sometimes people say – “ They are both made for each other”

An incomplete sentence it is, I would say :P –“ They are made for each other to ……?“

Only they know! Be optimistic ;) and fill-in!

Yeah ,call me wicked!! :P But hey – unmai kasakumaam!

Ok jokes apart :) – Now coming to the serious question. Why do some marriages fail so MISERABLY?

#Well, in our Indian culture- we follow the custom to get married only once. I have no complains about that :D. So marriages are really serious here! Most of the time, in the excitement – what people forget is, you are actually committing the rest of the life to this person. Things that generally blinds-out this fact are – the expectations & attitude with which people look at marriages. I do not say – DO NOT EXPECT. Practically, no one would agree with me even if I say so.


#*You may look at marriage with lot of expectations – but do not fail to remember that the other person is also getting married for the first time :P with similar expectations in his/her mind!

#Before you expect something – in marriage it is always better to understand & do what the other person would expect from you. This way if both of them act – there would not be any issues at all. Do not give me individual’s right -crap. Sometimes you have to lose something in the process of gaining something else!!

#*Things one can afford to lose to make a marriage successful

-EGO,Abhorrence,Anger,Jealous,Pessimism,Doubt,Definitely not YOU!!

#*Things that do not deserve to be lost in the process

-Self respect,Patience,Loved ones, Friends & family,Your goal in life,Dignity,Optimism,Trust

And understanding couples always make marriages successful & thus making the loved one’s happy too…. spreading the happy wave around, it would propagate like a ripple. So will the worry wave propagate if the couple do not understand the responsibility.

People need to understand each other & also the society! Family is the smaller part of the society.Society is the larger Family. They may appear different – but on keen observation they become one & the same at some point. Hence one may not neglect the importance of marriage. There is no happiness without acceptance, tolerance, understanding & adjustment in any family! Marriage is no joke – they are very demanding & if people do not realize the responsibility that the society has bestowed upon them – no marriage would be successful for ever! Also it is not just about 2 individuals – but it spreads like a wave influencing many loved one’s- friends & family!

There are different ways in which marriages influence the society – or at least the concerned families.

~~One, where people make their marriage successful, of course with a considerable struggle & also make their loved ones happy.

~~Other kind – where they do not care about anyone & also each other – become a big head ache for all!

~~The third kind – where they do not bother about anyone else but only themselves.

~~Many more…. Many many more…

While these things keep be in one side we may have a new wing to discuss on – Arranged VS Love marriages!Am very consciously not getting deep into this topic....but an overview is...

Not all love marriages fail – not all arranged marriage succeed. According to me – it doesn’t even matter which category it falls in- as long as the couple understands each other & respects each other & their families. If this fact is neglected – marriages are not marriages but simply a ceremonial start for cheating the larger group- Society! Do not tell me you do not live for the society – You have to live in ONE! SO it is better to show some respect for the rituals that are followed.

Sometimes what really makes me laugh at is, in the case of love marriages/arranged marriages – some people who are not marriage-product get married & make each others life hell and sometimes they go to the extent of spoiling the loved one’s peace too, while some others who are so dedicated & respects each other and the loved ones - do not get married so easily. They have too many hurdles & sometimes they remain single for really long time. I only wish that – the later category’s patience is not checked upon! :)
Some people who get married with not much struggle fail to understand – what these people go through & they also fail to value people!

Things you get easily are not valued much sometimes – so true!!

Having seen few very dedicated souls being denied permission from parents/relatives to tie the knot – it really is sad to see!
After all life is to be happy & make others happy! Hope every person understands this!

I put a pause to this discussion here & continue on this later.

TO SHARE!!

Okay- here is something interesting that happened last week. Me & my Sister were traveling back home in train. At that time one of the known girl came towards us & interrupted our busy chat 7 asked “ May I sit here & join the great sisters?”

We both in unison said “ Please!! :) …..”

And we three got into some discussion… and it went on & on & on…..

And finally she threw this question “ Are you both gonna get married to brothers?”

LOL!!!

This is the umpteenth person asking us this question….

But I gave her this answer “ Marriage? LOL!! So are you planning to get married real soon … why did you shoot us with this question? ;)

Her: “ No yaar ! Marriage definitely no.... I don’t want to get married.

Me (thinking- Finally I get to see someone with like thoughts …..hm… Keenly observing her answer…but suddenly my sister shoots this question.)

Sis: Are you not interested in getting into any commitment with any guy or marriage?

Me:(DUH!! What dumb question is she asking... wanted to give my sis an electric current …. Because are they not synonymous when it comes to a relationship between a guy & a girl –getting married AND/OR getting commited. But boom!! The other girl froze me with her answer….)

Her: No yaar. Marriage is BIG BORE! I love to have relationship – but marriage is kind of boring.

Me: ( :O WHAT THE #@$%!! ???!!!! And I looked at my sis in astonishment. What is this girl talking…?? And then she puked some sick things which I feel are atrocious & would prefer not to discuss about in a public forum – preaching wrong, never! Then we kind of ended the conversation in total disagreement. And she finally gave a sort of yes answer – to getting married- it went like… )

Sis:She gave me the smile that read- “I toldyaaaaa….!! See, it was not a dumb question. The right question to the right person!” :P )

Her: Hm…okai. I may get married to a guy & it sure would not be any of the maami’s son or of any maami’s in my moms friends circle! It would be from shaadi.com or other such links where you find the type of person – preferably NRI , I may live with for some time…

Me: Sometime?? Oh dear!! You better remain single & continue your DD style Dating& Dumping….than ruin someone else’s life!!I spoke..) Poor guy! You better rethink about getting married !! ;)

Sis & Me (We deliberately moved onto to a different topic & then soon we departed.)

OOFFF!! So this is the idea some people have in mind about marriage..??!!! CRAP!!

And OH GOD! PLEASE SAVE THOSE NRI’S!!! ;)

More on this topic later – (NO…not the girl :P –TOPIC- Marriages!! )

A little thought:


If you & your spouse are in conflict about anything, the following guidelines may help

#Identify the problem from both perspectives with mutual respect for those perspectives.

# Brainstorm with abandon - give your creativity a chance to discover solutions that would make you both happy. Jot down ideas as you think of them throughout the day.

# Choose the solution that meets the conditions of the Policy of Joint Agreement best - mutual and enthusiastic agreement.

# Whenever a conflict arises keep in mind the importance of finding a solution that will deposit as many love units as possible, while avoiding withdrawals. And be sure that the way you find that solution also deposits love units and avoids withdrawals.


I shall return soon .....

~Maruthu.


117 comments:

The Devil said...

First comment after a longgggggggggggg time :)

The Devil said...

appaala vandhu commenting, ippo upbeat

Harish said...

"they fail for no real good valid reason - but it fails because people fail to understand!"

"Do not fail to remember that the other person is also getting married for the first time :P with similar expectations in his/her mind!"

"marriages are not marriages but simply a ceremonial start for cheating the larger group- Society!"

Dear Sis,
You would make one amazing marraige counselor. I wish people who get married have this insight before they tie the knot :-)

tulipspeaks said...

when my previous r/ship failed, the thought of having a failed r/ship again is what hindering me from getting married to sumone - even though that sumone can be madly in love with us, how would we know it wont happen again?

anthe bayem ennake ennaikum irukum.


ammu.

My days(Gops) said...

attendance attendance attendance...

apaaala varen..

vishesh said...

lol :-) what can i say!! say cheers !!

referral god said...

attendance!

Dreamzz said...

:) mature and sensitive topic!
nalla eludhi irukeenga.

Dreamzz said...

//These days some of the marriages FAIL – MISERABLY! //

enakku inga oru small doubt? what does it mean when you say marriages "fail". does it mean
1. The couple ends up in divorce?
2. The couple lives an hellish existence with each other?

if it is 1, thenI would say the couple benefitted from it. I am not much of an advocate for divorce, and personally find the thought repulsive, but to a certain extent, i think if someone can be happy w/o the other and v.v and divorce is the way to go then maybe it is!

if it is 2, I would say, get a divorce and continue with ur life!

Dreamzz said...

//Marriage is no joke – they are very demanding & if people do not realize the responsibility that the society has bestowed upon them – no marriage would be successful for ever! //
:) Agreed!

Dreamzz said...

//Hm…okai. I may get married to a guy & it sure would not be any of the maami’s son or of any maami’s in my moms friends circle! It would be from shaadi.com or other such links where you find the type of person – preferably NRI , I may live with for some time…//


:(((( ஆஹா! பாவம் நாங்க! ஒரு பாவமும் செய்யாம எங்களுக்கு ஏன் இந்த தண்டனை! ;)

I think she doesnt understand the value of love/life. hopefully she does, for her own good.

gils said...

!!! kutti paapa semma marriage counsellora varum polarukay :D marriage n aftermath pathi ivlo disci...!!hmm...

The Visitor said...

Others have said it Marutham, that you'd make a wonderful marriage counsellor. I agree with that opinion.
You should perhaps have a column - Ask Marutham Maami :D

Now regarding your opinion of her's attitude - I feel that you are being judgemental and opinionated. It is her choice, and I don't see what is wrong if she prefers to have only a realtionship. It is her choice.
She never said that she would cheat someone in a relationship, it is your own interpretation of her words. I think it is fine to have a relationship as long as both partners are fully aware of what they are getting into, and the possible consequences of it.
I think you must have an open mind in accepting other people's ideas. In a marriage also, having an open mind is the first step towards understanding the other person. Just my thoughts on the matter.

Gopalan Ramasubbu said...

Isai Kuyil,

I read this some where and thats what i think about Indian Marriages :).

5% of all marriages are great. 5% of all marriages are worst. The balance is in various stages of compromises.

Btw,U r thinking too much these days to write a blog post. ;)

Have a read-http://urpudathathu.blogspot.com/2006/12/blog-post.html

Bharani said...

sssh....soda please....evlo periya post...

Bharani said...

final yr project mood innum polaya enna..inga oru thesis submit panniteenga :)

Bharani said...

i totally agree with ur thoughts....understanding illati...adhu loveso arrangedo oothal dhaan....

Bharani said...

//And OH GOD! PLEASE SAVE THOSE NRI’S//....adhe...adhe...paavam avanga...

Bharani said...

//Whenever a conflict arises keep in mind the importance of finding a solution that will deposit as many love units as possible, while avoiding withdrawals. And be sure that the way you find that solution also deposits love units and avoids withdrawals//....eppadinga...super thought...liked it a lot ...

Bharani said...

//I shall return soon //....idhu enna gaptan solra....we will meet..will meet..will meet....maadhiri iruku :)

My days(Gops) said...

//Amma appa - i will wish them straight! ;)//

neeenga ok...naaanga?

enga wishes'aium sollidunga..ok va?

My days(Gops) said...

//Is it all about just getting committed to someone for the rest of your life//

aaaama, adhula naala thaan peria peria professionals ellam ,
my first wife is my work nu solluraanga pola.. he he

My days(Gops) said...

//Inga yaravadhu unaku kalyanama, Karumaadhiyanu aramichudadheenga please !!!;) Answer is no :) !//

aaama ippavey sollitaaaanga.... yaarum kalyaanam, karumaadhinu start panaadheeenga....

venum'na, final year blues, college crisps'nu sollikonga..
(enna maruthu naan soluradhu?)

My days(Gops) said...

// but it fails because people fail to understand!//

aaama namma superstar rajinu'um nalla solli irukaaaru..

purshan, ponjaadhi porutham thaan venum,
porutham illati varutham thaan thonum..
amancha adhu pola kalyaanam pannu,
illa, nee vaaalu thani aaala ninnu'nu...


makkals yaarumey purinchika maatenguraaangaba.....

Jagan said...

nice one.. seems like you have given a plenty of thougth process to write this post..

seri that apart why no to marriage.. what made you say/think so.. no concrete reason

anyway evano oruthan polachan :D

My days(Gops) said...

//we follow the custom to get married only once.//
ya,
once => legal....

appuram therialanga..

Jagan said...

#*Things one can afford to lose to make a marriage successful

-EGO,Abhorrence,Anger,Jealous,Pessimism,Doubt,Definitely not YOU!!


10/10 for that

Syam said...

kali muthi pochu nu summaavaa sonngaanga....paarunga Abi-Ash ah wish pannitu appuram thaan amma appa ellam :-)

Syam said...

Ash ku kalyaanam aaiduchunnu avan avan inga sogathula irukaan...neenga sandhosama kondaatitu irukeenga :-)

Syam said...

Amma Appa ku enga wishes um sollidunga :-)

Arunkumar said...

aaaaaappppppppppaaaaaaaaaaaa
atlast naan inga vandutten.. oru pathu post pending-nu nenaikuren :(

Arunkumar said...

first things first..

//
thinking- Finally I get to see someone with like thoughts
//
someone somewhere can rest in peace :)

Arunkumar said...

disci : prev comment was a 'juz kidding' type...

abt the pst:
really nice one. ada ada enna oru analysis.. college padikkum bodhe ivalo theliva :)

Arunkumar said...

//
If this fact is neglected – marriages are not marriages but simply a ceremonial start for cheating the larger group- Society!
//
bestu.. idhu super.

//
And OH GOD! PLEASE SAVE THOSE NRI’S!!! ;)
//
nalla pray pannunga engalukkaga. :)

Arunkumar said...

lemme go read the rest of the posts now :)

Wyvern said...

wow....that was some indepth writing miss. You have some serious writing skills. Apparently you have given some serious thought into marriage.

Wyvern said...

thenamum 3 times half platu chicken biryani kodutha nan yarai venalum kalyanam pannika ready.

Badri said...

Ennaga ore advice mazhaya iruku? btw,unga page'ku vantha edho paatu ketkuthu :P Marutham blog kuda paaduma ??

The Devil said...

//Things you get easily are not valued much sometimes – so true!! //

v hav 2 shed our inhibitions and atleast by a mere smile (mostly v forget to do evn tht) how much v value them. v often repent on these whn v really miss them

The Devil said...

//I only wish that – the later category’s patience is not checked upon! //
note pannirukeengala, mostly indha maari cases'ku thaan thadangal niraya varum :)

The Devil said...

//And OH GOD! PLEASE SAVE THOSE NRI’S!!!//
LOL... Gud one :)

The Devil said...
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The Devil said...

vittu koduthal, anusarichu poradhu indha rendu azhagaana tamizh vaarthaigala vitutteenga :)

The Devil said...

n with respect to the gal, its not new to c those kind, since u want to defer those comments, am stopping hereby abt tht

The Devil said...

last but not the least, it all boils down to the individual who decides the course he/she should take. if they has a devil care attitude and no respect for their partners, they are not worth it

Ravi said...

Hi Marutham,
Hope you are doing fine. I really loved this post of yours. It was so practical and quite straight forwards instead of the usual stuff like understanding, love, blah blah... As you rightly said, though many would, by heart, feel your points are valid, would not have the courage to accept them. But I fully do. Infact they almost concur with mine. Great post Martham.

My days(Gops) said...

aiyo maruthu, enna'nga summa pottu thaaaki irukeeenga..... endha word'a highlight panni, best'nu sollavey mudiala... he he....

//but do not fail to remember that the other person is also getting married for the first time :P with similar expectations in his/her mind!//

topu topu...

My days(Gops) said...

//love to have relationship – but marriage is kind of boring. //

andha friend thodarndhu star channel'la englibikish drama paarkuraanga pola...

My days(Gops) said...

//PLEASE SAVE THOSE NRI’S!!! ;) //

aaaam god plz save and prevent :P

My days(Gops) said...

50 pottukiren first......

My days(Gops) said...

//I shall return soon .....//

seekiram vaaaanga... adhuku munaala, thambi kitta solli, oru apple juice, appuram oru kothu rotti, appuram ippodaiku idhu podhum....

varataa.......nice post ....

kanniya said...

...... I am happy bein sINGLE wanna join the club ??

J said...

Very matured post :-) I liked it.

>>Things that do not deserve to be lost in the process

-Self respect,Patience,Loved ones, Friends & family,Your goal in life,Dignity,Optimism,Trust

Completely agree with this.

And while doing the above, "EGO,Abhorrence,Anger,Jealous,Pessimism,Doubt,Definitely not YOU!!"--one of these characters is entering into us unknowingly. what to do :-)

overall, its a wonderful post.

Anyways, how is life? how r u doing these days? vacation'a ippa? eppa office join pannanum?

Marutham said...

@Devil,
Amaam Amaam ;)
Now u r awake atleast :P

Marutham said...

@Devil,
Medhuva come :P

Marutham said...

@Harish,

Dear bro :) ,

I only wish...
//I wish people who get married have this insight before they tie the knot :-)// :)
But romba romba kashtam... :)

Just Words said...

hey thanks for your comment ! your post is good ….. you will make a good marriage counselor

Marutham said...

@Tulip,
Good to see you here. :)
//when my previous r/ship failed, the thought of having a failed r/ship again is what hindering me from getting married to sumone //
I will split my answers into #...
#I do remember seeing you very blue that time. It must have been hard to take dear :) But sometimes we do come across such unwanted incidents in life- and that is what life is! isn't it.. :) Some people are lucky enough - while some have to face it once. We have to be patient & try to understand-learn from previous experiences.
#It is better that you commit yourself to someone who is worthi'd & reliable to have a relationship with. And your instincts~intutions would help you know this...Until then it is better to wait. :)
#Never complain or blame you for losing someone. May be the slightest blame could be " I should have been a little bit more cautious..." Other than this..never blame yourself. The other person have not understood you well and feel good that u broke-up before tying the knot.
#(BREAKING UP IS A WORD I HATE TO SEE or USE...But sometimes than living a life that is HELL - this is better..but still i do not recommend :) breaking up. Rather - the word would be CAREFULLY CHOSE with whom you wanna share the greater part of your life ~ a gift. Let it take time..really really long time...but do not marry the wrong person & make eachothers life HELL)
//- even though that sumone can be madly in love with us, how would we know it wont happen again?//
# Never suspect!... :) that is the key to a happy life.Simply because one person was a total crook...doesn't mean all of them would be. Give it a chance..but do know the limits. Never lose those i have listed here - in winning a relationship. A few of them, after getting married - alright may be you could lose..but Before marriage if a person is demanding you to lose them...BEEP - thats the warning for you. Think again...
Learn from experiences & move on...
The next time better be careful..and relying on parents or elders in choosing your life partner is never a mistake. Remember - you would decide- but they can choose for you.. :) It is never bad giving them a chance & most of the time - they are right!

Finally - Do not cry over spilt milk..but- Never forget how & why it got spilled :)
With cheers-i wish you luck ammu :)

Marutham said...

@GOPS,
MEDHUVA COME :)

Marutham said...

@Vishesh,

Ippo edhuku LOL'ina?
Inga enna joke'a sonaanga?? :P

Marutham said...

@Referal god,
Idhu yaarunga? Pudhusa iruku..adhuvum attendance podra culture - vandha udan. Attendance elaam inga roll.call register panavangaluku matum dhaan :P
New entry elaam no no.. :P
Who is this? :) //Profile Not Available//

Marutham said...

@Dreamz,
:) Nandri.... Nandri..

Marutham said...
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vishesh said...

i tht one thig wrote another....lol:)

tulipspeaks said...

appada.. nvr thought u will take so much trouble to answer me. thanks alot!

i will bear this in my mind. trying v hard to move on and i 'think' God is showing me a path now. may all will turn out to be well. hopefully :)

thanks alot for the wishes too.


cheers!



ammu.

Marutham said...

@Dreamz,
//if it is 2, I would say, get a divorce and continue with ur life!//
:)

Adhuvum sari dhaan.. but it must be the last option - vettu kuthunu pogra stage'ku munadi panalaam.
Ippo elam summa thumaluku elaam divorce panraanga! :)

Marutham said...

@Dreamz,
//ஆஹா! பாவம் நாங்க! ஒரு பாவமும் செய்யாம எங்களுக்கு ஏன் இந்த தண்டனை! ;)//
PAVAM DHAAN :P ..
Ingayum silar paavam ! ;)

//I think she doesnt understand the value of love/life. hopefully she does, for her own good.//
I felt the same.. :)

Marutham said...

@Gills,
//kutti paapa semma marriage counsellora varum polarukay :D marriage n aftermath pathi ivlo disci...!!hmm...//
Ahaaaaaaaa...Kelambitaangaya ;) !!

Marutham said...

@Visitor,
//Others have said it Marutham, that you'd make a wonderful marriage counsellor. I agree with that opinion.
You should perhaps have a column - Ask Marutham Maami :D//
ADA sooper joke ponga :) !!
I guesss- u did not note this ...."And then she puked some sick things which I feel are atrocious & would prefer not to discuss about in a public forum – preaching wrong, never! "I do have clear idea about what she was talking..& i did understand things right- the way she meant it...
:)

//It is her choice. //
Ofcourse it is! DO read our conversation again..ITS HER CALL!
//I think you must have an open mind in accepting other people's ideas.//

Excuse me'o!! Open mind- yes !! Alright...open mind doesn't include accepting bull shit- does it? :)
If no, call me NOT OPEN MINDED....

:)

Marutham said...
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Marutham said...

@Gopalan(Appa'va koopidala :D)
//Isai Kuyil,

I read this some where and thats what i think about Indian Marriages :).

5% of all marriages are great. 5% of all marriages are worst. The balance is in various stages of compromises.//

:) Neenga Vayasula periyavanganu prove paniteenga

//Btw,U r thinking too much these days to write a blog post. ;)//
Makkuku purilaye :D... Post poda yosikren or romba yosichu post podren?? :D
Was busy with project work for a while :) So a little disorganised.
Ippo am getting back on track

Marutham said...

@Bharani,
//sssh....soda please....evlo periya post...//
:D
Neenga rombaaaaaaa nalavarnu solraanga elaarum

Hehe..
Dei thambi ayyavuku oru soda kudu..ice neraya podu..

Marutham said...

@Bharani,
//final yr project mood innum polaya enna..inga oru thesis submit panniteenga :)//
Hehe... FInal presentation anaku oru mega comedy ilayo nadandhuchu :D
Hehe....
Idhu romba long post dhaan..anaal enna seyradhu~~
Kalyanam is 1000 kaalathu payir- adhu pathi ithnoondu kooda podalana..apram 1000 kalathuku thangadhey ;)
OK ok..ADIKA VARADHEENGA>>EDHO CHINNA PONNU THERIYAMA PANITEN :D

Marutham said...

@Bharani,
//i totally agree with ur thoughts....understanding illati...adhu loveso arrangedo oothal dhaan....//
:) U too... HAND SHAKE plz :D

Marutham said...

@Bharani,
//...idhu enna gaptan solra....we will meet..will meet..will meet....maadhiri iruku :)//
Ahdu vera onnum ila... Periya post'a paarthutu elaarum enna thiti aal vechu adichuta.... Adhaan inga solikren..I will return soon apdinu. Periya police padathula elaam apathadhu ilaya? :D Konjam dangerous zone'kula porapo - Will be back in few minutes- if i do not turn up send me back up...apdinu solitu ula pogum crew..adhu mari..inga yaarum enaku back up kuduka mataanga ..:P LOL..adhu vera vishayam.

Btw, plz auto anupidadheenga :( Adutha vaati kutty post'a podren :D

Marutham said...

@Gops,
Vaanga gops..welcome back :)
//neeenga ok...naaanga?

enga wishes'aium sollidunga..ok va?//
Wishes delivered... :D
Thanku gops :)

Marutham said...

@Gops,
//my first wife is my work nu solluraanga pola.. he he//
ungaluku velai adhigam pola irukey ;)

Marutham said...

@Gops,
//aaama ippavey sollitaaaanga.... yaarum kalyaanam, karumaadhinu start panaadheeenga....

venum'na, final year blues, college crisps'nu sollikonga..
(enna maruthu naan soluradhu?)//
Thats my friend... :) Super gops!! Remba correcta soneenga ...Lovely! :D

Marutham said...

@Gops,
//aaama namma superstar rajinu'um nalla solli irukaaaru..//
Unmaya adhu unga dialogue ilaye...It sounds like urs ;)

Hehe..good one though.

//makkals yaarumey purinchika maatenguraaangaba.....//
Hm..:) elaarukum oru soodu pota sari aydum ;)

Marutham said...

@Jagan,
//nice one.. seems like you have given a plenty of thougth process to write this post..
seri that apart why no to marriage.. what made you say/think so.. no concrete reason//

Hm..First thanku ! :) Am glad u liked it. Yes - konjam yosichen.

//anyway evano oruthan polachan :D //
:O
Cha....Maruthu- nee enna apdi oru villain image create panirukiya enna??
Cha cha cha....

Marutham said...

@Gops,
//ya,
once => legal....

appuram therialanga..//
:O

:O

:O
Nan yosikavey ilaye indha angle'la :P
Sari illlaaaaaaa.....

Marutham said...

@Jagan,
//10/10 for that..//
Naan pass poaniten-- soooper pass! :D

Hehe..
Yes jagan, especially "NOT YOU" adhula no compromise. :)

Marutham said...

@Syam, :O
//kali muthi pochu nu summaavaa sonngaanga....//
Ayayo..ena syam ipdi soliteenga...
Amma appa anniversary'ku munadi mudinju pochu A_A wedding..adhaan adhu first :) ..Matha padi kali no play. :P
Meyyalumey!! Dates order follow pani dhaan that came first

Marutham said...

@Syam,
//Ash ku kalyaanam aaiduchunnu avan avan inga sogathula irukaan...neenga sandhosama kondaatitu irukeenga//

Ayayo.. :P Idhukey manasu thalirita epdi..?!
Btw, oru line mattum dhaan ash-abhi ku . en post meedham pooora thought'ku dhaan. Not celebration :)

Marutham said...

@Syam,
//Amma Appa ku enga wishes um sollidunga :-)//
Kandippa..-- wishes delivered!! :D
Thanks syam..

Marutham said...

@Arunkumar,
//aaaaaappppppppppaaaaaaaaaaaa
atlast naan inga vandutten.. oru pathu post pending-nu nenaikuren :(//
Hehe..Neenga vandhadhukey - thanks :)
Take ur time...Onnum perusa miss panala

Marutham said...

@Arunkumar,
//someone somewhere can rest in peace :)//
ARUNKUMAR & JAGAN
SAME BLOOD...!!
Maruthu enna apdi oru villi image created'a?? :>

Marutham said...

@Arunkumar,
//disci : prev comment was a 'juz kidding' type...
//
Dey thambiiii - Auto elaam anupa vendaam..JAGAN veetuku mattum AUTO anupu podhum :P
Selavu micham - arunkumar ESCAPE!! :P

//abt the pst:
really nice one. ada ada enna oru analysis.. college padikkum bodhe ivalo theliva :)//

Edhum thitala dhaney :D..Appo ok. Thanks & am glad u liked t post.

Marutham said...

@Arunkumar,
//bestu.. idhu super.

//
# Anaal naatla ippo idhu dhaan adhigama iruku :)

//
And OH GOD! PLEASE SAVE THOSE NRI’S!!! ;)
nalla pray pannunga engalukkaga. :)//

# Haha... Kandipa pray panikren :)

Marutham said...

@Arunkumar,
//lemme go read the rest of the posts now :)//
Hehe :) Sweet !

Marutham said...

@Wyvern/Arun..
//wow....that was some indepth writing miss. You have some serious writing skills. Apparently you have given some serious thought into marriage.//
First-- Thank you! Am glad you enjoyed readign the post
:) Have i?Do i?
Marriages - idhuku melayum neraya irukum ...Namma kutti moolaiku ivlo dhaan etuchu :) Adha i have shared it here with friends.

Marutham said...

@Wyvern/arun,
//thenamum 3 times half platu chicken biryani kodutha nan yarai venalum kalyanam pannika ready.//
LOL>....
Enna arun - appo oru cook & oru fridge podhumey :P
Edhuku kalyanam?? ;) Kidding.. May god bless you with a microwaveoven-wife :P
che sorry... Lovely girl...
Hehe

Marutham said...

@Devil,
Welcome backu... :)
//v hav 2 shed our inhibitions and atleast by a mere smile (mostly v forget to do evn tht) how much v value them. v often repent on these whn v really miss them//
Ada summa super'a soneenga gops :)

Marutham said...

@Badri,
BAND PLAYERS ELAAM ENGA POITEENGA>>>STAART MUJIC
Vaanga vaanga...welcome here badri! :)
//Ennaga ore advice mazhaya iruku? btw,unga page'ku vantha edho paatu ketkuthu :P //
Adadey- advice elaam illa :)
Edho nama small moolai wat reach- tellings avlo dhaan :)
//Marutham blog kuda paaduma ??//
Kindal dhaney :P
Adhu pona postuku pota paatu! :)

Marutham said...

@Devil,
//note pannirukeengala, mostly indha maari cases'ku thaan thadangal niraya varum :)//
Amaam... College college apdinu iruku..apram suTram natpu :P

And easy'a ok aydra silar- dedication ilaama, forget the value- adhu dhaan kodumai.

Marutham said...

@Devil,
//vittu koduthal, anusarichu poradhu indha rendu azhagaana tamizh vaarthaigala vitutteenga :)//
I was planning to write this post in proper englipeesh :D Adhunala dhaan actual post'la thamizh mix panala :)
But point noted my lord.
These are excellent- ok ok..
Ivai irandum - arumayana thamizh Chorkal. Evidha uravu murayilum- udhaseena paduthapada koodadha 2 panbu. Ivai matum indri innum silavum ulana...
:)
Declare paniyaachu gops ;)

Marutham said...

@Devil,
Hm.. :)
//n with respect to the gal, its not new to c those kind, since u want to defer those comments, am stopping hereby abt tht//
Enaku adhu konjam unexpected & very NEW :) Neenga solradhu right dhaan.

Marutham said...

@Devil,
//if they have a devil care attitude and no respect for their partners, they are not worth it//
:) Vaasthavamana pechu ....
Super gops!

Marutham said...

@Ravi,
Welcome here! :) Long time....
//Hope you are doing fine.//
Am doing great ravi. Thanks.. Hope u r doing fine too.. :)
// I really loved this post of yours. It was so practical and quite straight forwards instead of the usual stuff like understanding, love, blah blah... //
:) Wow... that is nice to hear. You have observed it very well. Applause!

//As you rightly said, though many would, by heart, feel your points are valid, would not have the courage to accept them. But I fully do. //
Thanku my lord! :)
//Infact they almost concur with mine. Great post Martham.// I felt like sharing things - Indha chinna moolaiku etina alavu :) Am glad to see your comment on that.Once again..thanku so much & good to see you back here after a very long time. Hope to see you around ;)

Marutham said...

@Gops,
//aiyo maruthu, enna'nga summa pottu thaaaki irukeeenga..... endha word'a highlight panni, best'nu sollavey mudiala... he he....//
:)

Marutham said...

@Gops,
//andha friend thodarndhu star channel'la englibikish drama paarkuraanga pola...//
Avangala blame pana koodadhu gops...
Andha channel'la kooda there are lovely shows that depict the value of relationships :)
Simpsons,Everybody loves raymond, Still standing,8 simple rules.. ,
My wife & Kids,....LOT MORE...
Silar edhulayum ketadha dhaan kathupena irukaanga.. Naladha paaka marandhudraanga..May be she falls in that category. :)

Marutham said...

@Gops,
//god plz save and prevent :P//
Unga style'la ADRA ADRA!! ;)
Hehe

Marutham said...

@Gops,
//seekiram vaaaanga... adhuku munaala, thambi kitta solli, oru apple juice, appuram oru kothu rotti, appuram ippodaiku idhu podhum....//
:D
Dey thambi...Ayyavuku oru JAR apple juice & oru butter naan with aallo curry kudu,... Vera ena venumnu ketu adutha order'um vaangiko
Gops... Sapdama poidadheenga ;)

Marutham said...

@Kanniya,
Welcome here!!

//kanniya said...

...... I am happy bein sINGLE wanna join the club ?? //
Hey why not try my club?? :P

Marutham said...

@Kanniya,
btw :O
LIAR!!!!!!!!!
You are single??!!! :O
:O
:O
:O
I gotto make some calls...

Marutham said...

@J,
Good to see you here :)
//Very matured post :-) I liked it.//
Am very glad u liked it ;)

//>>Things that do not deserve to be lost in the process
Completely agree with this.// :
:) Thaanku

//And while doing the above, "EGO,Abhorrence,Anger,Jealous,Pessimism,Doubt,Definitely not YOU!!"--one of these characters is entering into us unknowingly. what to do :-) //
Adadaa...anubavam pesudhu :D Sweet!! Onnu rendu compromise panlaam - no problem :) Elaathayum vituta dhaan vambu.


//overall, its a wonderful post.//
Thanku you so much...Am happy to see ur comment on this post!

//Anyways, how is life? how r u doing these days? vacation'a ippa? eppa office join pannanum?//
Hehe...Kadasiya indha chinna ponnu gnabagam vandhuchey ;) Kidding..
Naan doing great J. How abt u? AM sure you must be having a rocking a rocking time.Ippo not in vacation, Sem exam inum aramikala... Join panra date inum solala . Probably by June` join pana vendiyadhu irukum :)
Thanku again.

Marutham said...

@Just words,
:) My pleasure...
//your post is good ….. you will make a good marriage counselor//
Hmm ..Am glad you liked the post ;)

Marutham said...

@Tulip,
//appada.. nvr thought u will take so much trouble to answer me. thanks alot!//
:) My pleasure....

And am glad you are seeign light..
Hoping to hear good news from you soon.
Wish you all the very best :)

Marutham said...

@ Vishesh,
//vishesh said...
i tht one thig wrote another....lol:) //
Eppa thambi nalla dhaan irukiya??
Exams over right??or is it the heat?? :P
Drink alot of water & keep urself cool ;)

vishesh said...

it is too hot!!!!!
exam over தா.....

எவளவூ தன்னி துடிக்கரது??

நா பானையா மாரிடுவேன்!!!

kuttichuvaru said...

hmm..... well-written post..... ellaarukkum kalyanam pannikkumpothu intha insight irunthuttaa apram kavalaiye illiye :-) chinna chinna compromises according to the situation irunthaale pothum....... life wud really be heaven on earth :-)

ambi said...

maruthu, un kutti moolaikulla ivlooo vishayamaa? :p

kanna kattuthu ma! nice thoughts and well expressed. but theory and reality always differs just like nalla colorfulla irukara kesari ellam tastyaa irukarathu illa and vice versa. :p

@kutti, eley kutti, nalla pazhamattum reply panni irukka. latesta india vera vanthu poi irukka. some thing! some thing. :)

Marutham said...

@Vishesh,
:P Enga parpom!

Marutham said...

@Kuttichuvaru,
pudhu maapilaku rababaaree...nala yogamadaa....:P
ada kutty vaanga vaanga- naan edho paatu paditu irukavum- ur comment seeing :P
//well-written post..... //
Nandrii :)
//ellaarukkum kalyanam pannikkumpothu intha insight irunthuttaa apram kavalaiye illiye :-) chinna chinna compromises according to the situation irunthaale pothum....... life wud really be heaven on earth :-)//
Neenga sonna sariya dhaan irukum :)
Heehee true kutty.
Very true! :)

Marutham said...

@Ambi,
//maruthu, un kutti moolaikulla ivlooo vishayamaa? :p
//
:>
//kanna kattuthu ma! //
SODA KUDINGA PLEASE! ;)
Hehe..kidding.
//nice thoughts and well expressed.//
Nandri ambi :)
// but theory and reality always differs just like nalla colorfulla irukara kesari ellam tastyaa irukarathu illa and vice versa. :p// Anubavam pesudha? :) Hm....

Ayy...KESARIYAAAA enga enga?? :D
Thanku ambi :)
//@kutti, eley kutti, nalla pazhamattum reply panni irukka. latesta india vera vanthu poi irukka. some thing! some thing. :)
I second you ambi :D
Pudhu maapilaku rabbabaraa rabbabaree :P NAAN EDHO PADIKUTU POREN..YARUM TENSION AGADHEENGA :p

Anonymous said...

i guess age doesnt matter at all haha.. :D such a topic and handled neately?? better u rethink :D ;) wht do u say?? hehe

Marutham said...

@Anony,
:O Aaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Session over... :P